Art is a little bit larger than life - it's an exhalation of life and I think you probably need a little touch of madness.
When he spoke, he was definitely southern. But don't be fooled. His wit was light years ahead of his own voice. He had a big head full of big ideas. He was busy; always busy. He was larger than life; legend; chef; the King.
Early on, I was faced with the prospect of leaving a voice recording on his home phone. I got this message:
" You have reached the Cofers. Please leave your name and number at the beep. We would prefer verse or song."
To say I was a little afraid of him would be an understatement.
" You have reached the Cofers. Please leave your name and number at the beep. We would prefer verse or song."
To say I was a little afraid of him would be an understatement.
We started small. I would visit Susan. Carl would be working. I would visit Susan at the farm. Carl would be busy. Little by little, I began to know Carl by learning to love that farm.
Imagine walking down a path in the woods next to a stream. When you emerge, you see this little cabin across the field that was original to the property. This picturesque little gem was tucked in long ago at the end of the lower field, but was used at first as a weekend base for the Cofer family. The Buckhead lawyer and his wife and children spent every weekend for years in and about a one room cabin without plumbing or power.

First monoliths, then stone sculptures of fish, dogs, whales, and men appeared around the farm.
Then a labyrinth of smaller stones, meant to hold the attention of the walker while opening the door to spiritual centering and greater creativity.
Finally, a mini Stonehenge materialized at the bottom of the hill, equally in scale with the schoolhouse and little church.
By now you must have the picture. The man had vision. He had drive. He had a common sense perspective, and a sense of humor about it. He knew what he wanted, and he went after it.
In the beautiful film by John Summerour (https://www.buildsxsemagazine.com/2016/08/saultopaul-documentary-film-john-henry-summerour/) titled Saultopaul, Carl said he liked having a quest. Surely one of his most successful missions was to find the consummate mate. On his own road to Damascus, I think Susan was the bolt of light that changed the man.
And so in Saultopaul, one can see the fine details of their quest to embrace nature, history, art, and each other in a creative life. The land was his medium, and he was a master.
I believe that quest included the opportunity for both he and Susan to share their vision and home with lucky ones like me and my family. For that, we will all be forever grateful, and also changed.
I will remember "FDR....Pick your bird." Good advice, indeed, and a fitting epitaph. But I also found this quote from Robert E Lee. In remembering Carl, this seems to fit. I don't think he would mind if I used this one, too.
“Shake off those gloomy feelings. Drive them away. Fix your mind and pleasures upon what is before you. All is bright if you will think it so. All is happy if you will make it so. Do not dream. It is too ideal, too imaginary. Dreaming by day, I mean. Live in the world you inhabit. Look upon things as they are. Take them as you find them. Make the best of them.
Turn them to your advantage.”
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